Reconcilliation

Then:
Esau held a grudge against Jacob. . .[and] said to himself, "The days of mourning my father are near; then I will kill by brother Jacob." Genesis 27:41

20 years later:
Then Esau ran to meet him and embraced him, and fell on his neck and kissed him, and they wept. Genesis 33:10

The last glimpse in the rearview mirror that Jacob had of his twin brother Esau was of him nursing a grudge and plotting his murder. Jacob had been gone for twenty years and is now returning home. They've had no contact in all that time. No wonder he was fearful of what might happen. What did happen was nothing less than miraculous.

When did Esau exchange his rage and vengance for love and forgiveness? How did he? Why did he?

It's been almost three years now after a friend and I had a falling out. A lot has happened in both our lives since then. But the view in my rearview mirror is still fresh with me. Based on that view, I really prefer to avoid contact. Because like Jacob, I am afraid.

Does time heal all wounds? How much time if it does? And what does the proverb mean that the wounds of a friend are faithful?